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  • 3 Research-based Tips for a Happy and Healthy Relationship

    Bob Navarra, PSY.D., MACDr. John Gottman has been studying couples for the last four decades to understand why some relationships are like ticking time bombs that result in divorce or chronic unhappiness, while others work well, are satisfying, and remain stable over a lifetime. Social scientists do not have a good track record predicting individual behavior, but it turns out that predicting relationship behavior isn’t really that difficult if you know what to look for.   Read More...

  • STOP TRYING TO FIX YOUR PARTNER’S FEELINGS

     by Kyle BensonThink back to a time when you were listened to and really felt heard. How did it feel to be seen as you were?The last letter in Dr. Gottman’s ATTUNE model is E and it stands for Empathy.Empathy is the willingness to feel with your partner.   Read More...

  • 5 Habits That Will Instantly Transform Your Marriage

    Ryan & Selena FrederickThe secret is out, there is no pill or potion that will make your marriage instantly better. Although, I suppose if there was such a remedy it would sell like organic mustache wax at a hipster convention. Being that a potion isn’t available, Selena and I have found that if we keep these few habits in place, our married life is ten times more enjoyable and fulfilling!1: Emphasize GratefulnessMany verses in the Bible tell us to give thanks and be grateful.   Read More...

  • How to Forgive When It's Hard to Forget?

    Proverbs 4:23 - “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.“I know I’m supposed to forgive,”….“But, I just can’t open myself up to that kind of hurt anymore. “Forgiveness and trust are two totally different things. “Well,” I was asked, “How can I forgive without opening myself up to being hurt again?”Good question. We hear this problem over and over again.   Read More...

  • SMLR - Starting Marriage Life Right

    Are you seriously dating someone, but wonder if you have what it takes to make it for a lifetime with the same person?Do you want to get married, but are unsure about the path ahead?Are you newly married, and finding marriage really tough?If this resonates with you, then come join us for an exciting journey at Highland for seriously dating, engaged, and newly married couples who want to be happy and have a fulfilling marriage. SMLR or Start Married Life Right will give you tools that will h...  Read More...

  • Pornography: The Digital Assault on Marriage

    by Gary ThomasWhen I first wrote Sacred Influence in 2004, pornography got a few paragraphs. When I rewrote Sacred Influence to become Loving Him Well (just released), a wife dealing with her husband’s pornography became an entire chapter. In fact, it is now the longest chapter in the book.   Read More...

  • Pay attention to the voices in your head.

    By Michelle Weiner-DavisYears ago, I experienced a bout of severe depression.Because I had never been depressed before, to say that I felt panicky is a vast understatement.This was especially true when nothing I did to help myself feel better seemed to work.That's when my depression spiraled out of control.Part of the reason I started becoming even more depressed was my self- talk; the voices inside my head.Because I feared staying stuck in despair, I was saying things like, "I'm al...  Read More...

  • Parenting Is Not About Raising Well-Behaved Kids

    If you view your kids as sinners who need salvation, you’ll see parenting as a rescue mission.By Todd FrielChristian children are never naughty.Yes, you read that right.Christian children are never naughty; Christian children commit sins. Labeling your child's behavior biblically will change the way you engage with your child when there is a ruckus in your home.When you think your child is simply being a brat, it is easy to scowl, yell, or even hit. But when you remember that your...  Read More...

  • Interviewing Young Men (Who Want to Date My Daughter)

    The InterviewBrace yourself like a man; I will question you, and you shall answer me.Job 38:3, NIVI wrote yesterday about an interview I've conducted numerous times with young men who have wanted to date our daughters. Lots of parents have asked me to share some of the things I cover when I meet with these young men. Here's a "high fly by" list:A woman is God's creation, a beautiful creation, a fine creation.   Read More...

  • How to Listen Without Getting Defensive

    By Kyle BensonUnderstanding your partner requires the capacity to listen. Really listen. Couples are advised to hear each other’s complaints without feeling attacked, and as great as this sounds, it’s often unrealistic.When something you said (or didn’t say) hurts your partner’s feelings, there’s a strong impulse to interrupt with, “That wasn’t my intention.   Read More...

  • How to Fail... In Healthy and Redemptive Ways

    God designed your self-image to be your friend and ally, to help you make great choices, to find your passions, and to succeed in all walks of life. And it was designed also to help you fail well. This is one of your self-image’s greatest benefits.   Read More...

  • Get Thee a Flawed Wife

    A letter of encouragement—and realism—to Christian men considering marriage.LORE FERGUSON WILBERTOur home is a magnet for single men. It probably has something to do with the near certainty of a meal or a hug and the absolute certainty of our love for them. When they come over, we almost always end up talking about single women.My husband and I value marriage and singleness, so sometimes we end up encouraging our brothers toward a life of undistracted devotion for as long as they&rsq...  Read More...

  • Fifteen Tactics for Joy

    You make known to me the path of life; in your presence there is fullness of joy; at your right hand are pleasures forevermore. (Psalm 16:11)How shall we fight for joy?Realize that authentic joy in God is a gift.Realize that joy must be fought for relentlessly.Resolve to attack all known sin in your life.Learn the secret of gutsy guilt — how to fight like a justified sinner.Realize that the battle is primarily a fight to see God for who he is.Meditate on the Word of God day and night.Pray ...  Read More...

  • Divorced Parents Can Co-Parent Peacefully

    Divorced parents should constantly evaluate themselves and ask if their behavior is helping or hurting their children.By Ron DealMy wife is an elementary school assistant principal. Her job requires that she be aware of the family circumstances for the children in her care. She works with a lot of children who come from divorce situations.   Read More...

  • Daily Rituals Intentional Couples Use to Cultivate Lasting Love

    by Kyle BensonDue to the daily pressures, distractions, and dynamics of modern life, a romantic couple doesn’t have to be dysfunctional to grow distant over time. Long working hours and the demands of raising children can push date night, sex, and romantic vacations to last place on the priority list.Researchers at UCLA observed 30 dual-career couples with young children to understand the daily challenges for finding opportunities to build strong relationships and families. They discovered...  Read More...

  • Cultivating a Happy Marriage: What's the Secret?

    By Drs. Les and Leslie ParrottWhat do you picture when you imagine a happy marriage? Some people think of financial security, a nice house, physical beauty, good health, high-profile careers, a thriving social life, or societal status.   Read More...

  • 5 Keys to Accountability

    In this celebrity culture, it’s easy for a servant to lose her way. These few habits keep our eyes on Jesus.By Beth MooreThe toxicity of celebrity culture within the body of Christ. I was asked to chime in on the subject by sharing several ways that I practice personal accountability and attempt to protect myself from getting sucked into the celebrity quicksand.Most of what I’ve learned in this area (and every other) I’ve learned the hard way, and I don’t pretend to have ...  Read More...

  • Being Relationally Rich with Your Teen

    I’m convinced that parenting kids is more than just an exercise in entertainment, improvement and survival. It’s more than the challenge to move kids from dependence to independence. And it’s more than a boot camp or preparation for the battles your children will face in the world.At its core, parenting kids is about relationship.You see, we were all created to be relational—teens most of all.   Read More...

  • Are You Blessing Your Children?

    A parent can influence children to become who God created them to be—not by manipulation or force but by watering the seeds God has planted.By Alex and Stephen KendrickOne of the great joys of parenting is the opportunity to know and love another person from the moment of their birth. To watch them discover the world with wonder. To see them grow physically and relationally.   Read More...

  • 6 Ways to Stay Connected When You Have a Busy Schedule

    Keeping communication lines open when life gets crazyWith work, family, church, and the occasional nap competing for space in your life, it can be hard for you and your spouse to stay connected. With all the directions you find yourself pulled, the two of you may feel like two ships passing in the night.It’s evident that a busy schedule can cause problems in your marriage. However, a little planning can go a long way toward improving communication in your marriage during these times.If mos...  Read More...

  • 6 No-Nos for Relating to Your Woman

    If you want to understand and love your wife, here are some things you should never do.By Mary May LarmoyeuxWhen my husband, Jim, and I pledged lifelong love to one another more than 30 years ago, we thought we had a lot in common. We had grown up in the same city, shared many of the same friends, and enjoyed similar leisure activities.Still, we soon learned that men and women are very different. Shortly after we married, Jim bought me what he thought was the perfect Christmas present: an outboa...  Read More...

  • 5 Ways to be a Better Dad

    I’m regularly asked by honest, hard-working men, “How can I be a better dad?” Asking the question is probably the first step. Fatherhood comes more easily to some than others. Maybe they had better models.   Read More...

  • When Your Kids Look at Porn

    Somedays as the mom of three sons, I wish I could be parenting in a different era… one in which cell phones did not exist and comic books were more common than pornography. Yet we do not choose the time and place which God inserts us into history. Pornography and the many sexual consequences associated with it are a regrettable part of the fabric of our society.   Read More...

  • The Real Battle

    It’s hard to believe your struggles aren’t against flesh and blood when your two year old is screaming and you can’t get them to stop. When your teenager is belligerent and you’re getting nowhere. That’s not your real battle.Although these are obvious flesh and blood issues we tackle, the point of Ephesians 6:12 is that it’s the inner fight against the evil of darkness that’s causing all these struggles.   Read More...

  • The Danger of Flirting

    Protect your marriage by watching how you talk with the opposite sex, even in jest.By Jerry JenkinsEditor's Note: In his book, Hedges, Jerry Jenkins writes of the need to protect a marriage relationship by establishing boundaries ("hedges") that help you maintain purity and avoid temptation. Hedges are rules "intended to protect my eyes, my heart, my hands, and therefore my marriage." He writes, "I've found that if I take care of how things look, I take care of h...  Read More...

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    Springtime in Your Marriage Garden

    Springtime in the garden is a reminder that your marriage needs regular attention and upkeep if you want it to be strong, healthy and beautiful. Spring is here, despite that fact that a large swath of the US recently endured a huge mid-April snowstorm. With spring, whenever it makes it appearance in your area, comes the return to the garden.I’ll admit I like having a nice garden and yard much more than I like making and maintaining one, but I know I can’t have one without the other.I...  Read More...

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    Sometimes It's Worth a Fight

    Some things just aren’t worth a fight. If my child wants to wear shorts in the middle of the winter, it’s often not worth the effort to make him change. While it might make me look like a bad parent, it isn’t actually putting his life in danger.   Read More...

  • Praying Together: Three Reasons Husbands Have Trouble Praying with Their Wives

    There are not a lot of things many wives would put higher on their priority list than a husband who steps up to the plate as a spiritual leader in their relationship. A big part of that is a consistent prayer life as a couple. If you’re not praying together with your spouse, it’s a good habit to develop – perhaps the best thing you can do for your marriage.   Read More...

  • Seven Tips for Stepfamily Success

    April Eldemire, LMFTThe stakes are high in marriage for those looking to get it right the second time around. While remarriage can heal the scars of divorce and blended families can provide newfound hope and optimism, recent statistics show that over 60% of second marriages fail. As ominous as this sounds, there are key steps you and your partner can take to maintain a happy remarriage.In his book Stepfamilies, James Bray found that at the heart of every well-functioning blended family is a stab...  Read More...

  • 4 Reminders for the Weary Mom on Mother’s Day

    This day was made for you—the tired and weary warrior mom who faithfully trudges on even when no one seems to notice.My friend was in tears on her first Mother’s Day, but not in the happy way you would expect. She had listened to mom after mom at church talk about the breakfast their husband and kids had made, the cards they received. Some even showed off new jewelry.   Read More...

  • What Every Wife Deserves

    Entitlement. It can destroy relationships. Think you are entitled to something without making any effort on your end and a relationship can quickly be thrown out of balance.   Read More...

  • Blended Families — The Challenge of Re-Sex

    Sex is an important part of remarriage, but a healthy sexual relationship doesn’t necessarily result in a healthy marriage.By Ron L. DealSex is an important part of any marriage relationship. In God’s infinite wisdom, He gave us a special expression of love and commitment that over the course of a marriage serves as a bonding agent, pleasure center, place of comfort, and a journey into surrender and oneness that reflects the very unity of the Trinity.Given the way our society obsesses about sexu...  Read More...

  • Idolatry (A life without boundaries)

    Some people are under the misconception that a life without boundaries - a life without rules is to be desired. The truth is boundaries give us freedom, and a lack of boundaries makes our lives a chaotic free for all, where we end up living in fear.I read an account of an elementary school with a large grassy play area for the children with a playground, ball fields, and all of it surrounded by a chain link fence. The children played freely and happily in this yard, with the liberty that safety ...  Read More...

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    The Big Surprise I Found in My Marriage — After 9 Years (Depression)

    I had been sitting on the edge of my bed for about 20 minutes when my wife, Raquel, walked in. I didn’t even look up. “I can’t do this,” I said.   Read More...

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    The Best Marriages Are Built on a Foundation of Friendship

    In fact, friendship should be present in a relationship before anything romantic happens.The first foundation of friendship in marriage is faithfulness.You can’t just be your spouse’s friend when you want to be or when it’s convenient. Proverbs 17:17says, “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.” In other words, friendship is mostly developed or lost during hard times.Times of adversity are when your friendship increases the most. That’s when we have to pay the most att...  Read More...

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    What Are You Worth?

    If people can come to grips with the real purpose of money and understand the truth about it from God's perspective, their lives and marriages will benefit greatly.By Russ and Julie CrossonWhen I was a boy, I was involved in a small business as part of a 4-H Club project. By buying and selling lambs, including showing them at the county fair as an opportunity to make sales, I was able to generate a profit and have money in my pocket at the end of fair week.I well remember walking around the ...  Read More...

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    Men, We Are Third

    by Gary ThomasOne of the most frequent requests I get is to write a book specifically for husbands. The reason I haven’t done that is largely because publishers know men don’t buy many books. I’ve brought up the possibility of doing a book for men in three different rounds of contract negotiations and the publishers always direct me somewhere else.   Read More...

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    Marriage Is Not A Big Thing, It's A Million Little Things

    Liz Higgins, LMFTAWhat if I told you that there are specific, concrete steps to having a better relationship?After spending more than four decades studying the components of what creates lasting and successful partnerships, Dr. John Gottman has discovered what couples can do to pave the way to having, and sustaining, their ideal marriage.One revelation to come from his research is the idea that small, intentional moments hold more weight than isolated, extravagant gestures when it comes to build...  Read More...

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    Love Only Exists Where There Is Freedom

    “His irresponsibility is making my life miserable,” Jen began. She then went on to tell me (Dr. Townsend) a terrible story of how her husband had successfully avoided adulthood for many years at her expense.   Read More...

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    HELP! My Spouse Wants Me To Make More Money

    By Drs. Les and Leslie ParrottYou’ve weighed your career decisions, filtered your values and what’s most important to you, and decided on a job that will help you not only bring in a good income, but also balance those values and pursuits in the best possible way for your family–or so you thought. Suddenly, you’re getting outside pressure from your spouse to up your game…and you’re not sure where it’s coming from.Money is a hot-button issue in most marr...  Read More...

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    It All Starts With the Cross

    Kirk and Chelsea Cameron describe what has made their “Hollywood marriage” work.Editor's Note: Kirk and Chelsea Cameron met while filming the 1980s sitcom, Growing Pains. Both had been believers in Jesus Christ for about a year; they fell in love and got married. Later they appeared in the Left Behind Series and the movie Fireproof.Although Hollywood has a reputation for being hard on marriages, somehow Kirk and Chelsea have been married for almost 20 years.   Read More...

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    15 Ways to Please Your Husband

    Enhance your husband's self-worth by discovering—and doing—what pleases him.By Barbara RaineyRomans 15:2-3 tells us, "Let each of us please his neighbor for his good, to his edification. For even Christ did not please Himself…"Who is your closest neighbor? Your husband.   Read More...

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    Training Our Children To Pray

    Rather than only teaching them simple prayers they can memorize and recite, we need to intentionally educate our children about what prayer should look like.By Melissa SpoelstraWe certainly spend a lot of time teaching our children how to put their clothes away, change the toilet paper roll, and say please and thank you. Teaching them to pray is even more important!I began teaching my children to pray when they were very small, but as they grew, I realized the need for more instruction in prayer...  Read More...

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    Superglue Your Marriage

    The world's "50/50 Plan" for marriage is destined for failure. God's plan calls for something much greater.By Dennis RaineySharWhen two people get married, they have high expectations about their relationship. An unspoken assumption by each one is that the other will "meet me halfway."When Barbara and I received premarital counseling from our friends and mentors Don and Sally Meredith, they warned us that we had been thoroughly indoctrinated in the world's plan fo...  Read More...

  • Romance For Dummies

    Eleven tips for the romantically challenged.By Bob LepineCan you think of the last time that you did something particularly romantic for your spouse?Really? Has it been that long?Here’s the thing about romance: When you have “that feeling”—like when you were dating or engaged, or during a particularly romantic night or weekend as a married couple—you find yourself thinking, I sure would like to have that feeling again.And when it doesn’t happen, you start thin...  Read More...

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    It Might Not Be Her

    ...It Might Be Her SituationBy Gary ThomasPreachers and teachers on marriage (and I have been among them) often warn young moms about being moms first and wives second. It’s certainly a dangerous and ever-present temptation that deserves attention. But this post is for the young husbands who have their own temptation—expecting their wives to be more than any one woman could possibly be while raising their kids.One August morning in Houston I waited just a little too long to go out fo...  Read More...

  • How To Keep Work From Killing Your Marriage

    Sometimes marriage takes a backseat to work. Marriage doesn’t become less important, but it does get less time and energy.There are seasons in which work demands everything we have—a crisis happens, an opportunity presents itself, a promotion is given, a co-worker gets sick. Whatever the situation, the normal schedule will not do.   Read More...

  • How to Change Your Man

    by Julie Clinton“He has made everything beautiful in its time.” Ecclesiastes 3:11Tim and I had a rough start to our marriage. We didn’t communicate well. Come to think of it, we didn’t do much of anything well.   Read More...

  • God's Daughter First, My Wife Second

    by Ryan FrederickI’m feel like a blessed man, but not because of material things (though, I’m happy to say my family is warm, dry, and fed). I feel blessed because of the people God has entrusted into my care.I began wondering what kind of men each of my daughters would marry. Would their future husbands treat them well?   Read More...

  • Gimme My Space

    THE IMPORTANCE OF RESPECTING YOUR SPOUSE’S INDIVIDUALITYBy Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott “Don’t smother each other. No one can grow in the shade.” – Leo BuscagliaWhen you’re in the early years of your relationship–namely, dating and the “honeymoon period” of your marriage–it’s easy to lose yourself in one another.   Read More...

  • Everyone Wants More Intimacy

    Everyone wants more intimacy. At least it seems that way to me. Every time I ask about what people want more of in their marriage, the top answers, no matter how I frame the question, always come back to intimacy.In my New Reader Survey, 77% had great interest in posts about sexual intimacy and 82% had great interest in posts about emotional intimacy.   Read More...

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    Avoid the Greener Grass Syndrome

    The best way to protect yourself from an affair is to water your own marriage.By Nancy C. AndersonIf your marriage is less than blissful, and you feel like giving up, I can tell you from personal experience: Marriages can be raised from the dead. My husband, Ron, and I had one of the worst marriages I've ever seen, but now, we really love each other—even like each other.   Read More...

  • 40 Lesson From 40 Years of Marriage: Part 4 of 4

    31. Wives generously use your sexual power in your husband’s life. I think that one of the mistakes we make when we read chapters 5-7 in Proverbs (which is a father’s advice to a son about the harlot) is to believe that sexual power over a man is limited to just a woman in the streets.I think Proverbs 5-7 gives women an interesting glimpse into how to encourage and bless her husband—by speaking love to him in the language that would encourage him. Ladies, use your sexual power liberally wit...  Read More...

  • 40 Lesson From 40 Years of Marriage: Part 3 of 4

    21. Suffering will either drive you apart, or it will be used by God to merge you together.Scripture teaches that our response to God and His Word is the difference-maker in how we handle suffering. You and your spouse have to decide to suffer together rather than falling apart.22.   Read More...

  • 40 Lesson From 40 Years of Marriage: Part 2 of 4

    11. What you remember is just as important as what you forget. We tend to suffer from spiritual amnesia. Wanting to remember God’s faithfulness, I started a spiritual milestone file in 1998.   Read More...

  • 40 Lessons From 40 Years of Marriage: Part 1 of 4

    By Dennis RaineyFour decades ago, I married Barbara Ann Peterson. Looking back now on the first 12 months of our marriage, I’d have to describe myself then as an idiot—repeatedly ignoring the dignity of the woman that God had brought me.But after six children, 19 grandchildren, and decades of married life, I’ve learned some things. I think of them as 40 lessons from 40 years of marriage … and family … and life.1.   Read More...

  • 3 Questions to Ask Before You Have Kids

    by Dr. Les & Leslie ParrotBeing married is a wonderful adventure, and it’s so much fun to dream of the future with the person you love most in the world. At some point early in your marriage, you and your spouse will probably tackle the big question of whether you want to have children.   Read More...

  • Your Husband Looks at Porn. Now What?

    Advice from a husband and counselor on how to respond when your spouse is struggling.Dr. Harry W. SchaumburgTypically the event doesn't start with a confession but by discovering your husband has a secret problem with lust, masturbation, or pornography.   Read More...

  • The Four Horseman

    Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, & StonewallingThe Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse is a metaphor depicting the end of times in the New Testament. They describe conquest, war, hunger, and death respectively. Dr.   Read More...

  • The Danger of Flirting

    Protect your marriage by watching how you talk with the opposite sex, even in jest.By Jerry JenkinsEditor's Note: In his book, Hedges, Jerry Jenkins writes of the need to protect a marriage relationship by establishing boundaries ("hedges") that help you maintain purity and avoid temptation. Hedges are rules "intended to protect my eyes, my heart, my hands, and therefore my marriage." He writes, "I've found that if I take care of how things look, I take care of h...  Read More...

  • A Couple's Guide to Complaining

    My wife Tami felt angry. “All you do after you get home from work and eat dinner is sit on the couch. Why can’t we talk, or take a walk together, or do both?”Couples will always have complaints about each other.   Read More...

  • 9 Signs You Should Call Off The Wedding

    In two decades of doing weddings, I’ve never had a runaway bride. There were a few times in which I was hoping the bride (and/or groom) would run; none ever have. But I have had weddings canceled throughout the years because one or both individuals came to the conclusion that getting married would be a bad idea.   Read More...

  • Why Do Nice People Attract Jerks?

    By The Boundaries Books TeamThe question that many people wonder is “If I’m nice, then why do I keep attracting such jerks?” They think that something is inherently wrong with them, and sometimes they can begin to get quite hopeless over their chances of finding good friends, someone good to date, or building a great marriage.The key to remember is that the reason why nice people attract jerks is that they are too adaptive in the beginning. If that person had had boundaries, the problem never wo...  Read More...

  • When Strangers Observe Your Relationship

    Get caught loving and serving your spouse.By Tricia GoyerOn a recent business trip I saw two couples who stand out in my memory.The first couple sat down by me at a restaurant table at the airport. “Why are you talkin’ to me?” The woman’s voice was nearly shouting as she glared at her husband. “I’m hungry, and you know I don’t like anyone talking to me when I’m hungry.”“Yes, I know.” The husband’s words came out as a sigh, and he slumped into the chair and waited as she went to order food.Contra...  Read More...

  • Married for Adversity

    By Gary Thomas“A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.” (Prov. 17:17)You’d be miserable indeed if you trained to become a fireman and resented it every time there was a fire. Not that you want there to be a fire, but putting out fires is what you’re trained to do.   Read More...

  • How to Handle Invasive In-Laws

    By Drs. Les & Leslie ParrotOne of the most difficult situations married couples face is dealing with invasive or controlling in-laws. Maybe they’re critical, nosy, or they monopolize your (or your spouse’s) time.   Read More...

  • Forgiving You Spouse After Adultry

    Four lessons from my journey of regaining trust in my husband.By Cindy BeallEditor’s Note: In 2002, Cindy Beall was a happily married wife to Chris, her husband of nine years. Chris had been on staff with a church in Oklahoma City for only six weeks when he made a confession that would change their lives forever: He had been unfaithful with multiple women over the course of two and a half years, and he was pretty sure one of those women was now pregnant with his child. He also admitted an addict...  Read More...

  • Angry Women and Passive Men

    by Dr. James DobsonThe problem has its origins in childhood, long before a young man and woman stand at the altar to say, "I do." For her part, the girl is taught subtly by her culture that marriage is a lifelong romantic experience; that loving husbands are entirely responsible for the happiness of their wives; that a good relationship between a man and woman should be sufficient to meet all needs and desires; and that any sadness or depression that a woman might encounter is her husband's faul...  Read More...

  • 21 Ways to Love the Person You Married

    By Drs. Les & Leslie Parrot“Happy marriages begin when we marry the ones we love, and they blossom when we love the ones we marry.” – Tom MullenIt’s easy to fall in love and to marry the person you’ve fallen for; it’s a much bigger endeavor to nurture that love for a lifetime. The good news is, it can definitely be done!   Read More...

  • Don't Take Your Spouse For Granted

    By Dr. James DobsonHonor one another above yourselves. Romans 12:10 Each of us has a heartfelt need to be honored and respected. All too often, however, we take our spouses for granted at home.   Read More...

  • 7 Red Flags For Dying Intimacy

    If you aren’t growing, you are dying. It’s true for every aspect of a relationship, including intimacy. Before death occurs, there are warning signs.   Read More...

  • What To Do When Hobbies Steal Your Spouse

    By Drs. Les and Leslie ParrottIt’s great when the two of you can find common ground and cultivate shared activities, but what happens when your spouse is completely consumed by his or her own hobbies?While it can make life interesting to be married to someone who is so deeply engaged with an activity they love, it can quickly become difficult. Once the honeymoon period has passed, you might find that your spouse begins to gradually move toward his or her favorite pastime–eventually f...  Read More...

  • The Real Reason Your Spouse Irritates You

    By Kevin A. ThompsonSpouses irritate one another. It’s an inescapable aspect of life.   Read More...

  • 3 Steps for Creating Vision and Leading Well as a Husband

    by Ryan FrederickAs a husband, my wife looks to me to lead our family. She desires decisive, meaningful direction in our marriage and in our lives (she’s told me this). Don’t get me wrong, she is definitely involved and vocal as we work together to craft our family vision.   Read More...

  • A Great Love Life Without 50 Shades of Anything

    By Sabrina Beasley McDonaldThese five steps have personally helped me have enjoyable and satisfying intimacy with my husband. I had no idea how desperate Christian women were to find satisfying physical intimacy until I heard a radio program interviewing Juli Slattery and Dannah Gresh on the book series Fifty Shades of Grey. Even though the series is a twisted, abusive love story, many women—even Christian women—are defending it mainly based on the idea that it helps with their love ...  Read More...

  • How to Know if You are Cherishing Your Spouse

    by Gary ThomasThere’s a simple definition of cherishing that doesn’t fully encompass the word, but it’s an essential slice of it.If you cherish someone, you seek to enhance their life. If you cherish a spouse, you think regularly about how you can enhance your spouse’s life.If you cherish a diamond, you set it in gold and regularly shine it. If you cherish a car, it gets washes and waxes and you think about where to park it.It’s the little things. Lisa likes to read the local paper so I try...  Read More...

  • How to Skyrocket Your Intimacy Through Shared Activities

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